How To Be Charismatic Like Robert Downey Jr

You wanna be charismatic? Sure you do. We all do. But you know what, there's a myth- a heinous myth-that charisma in inborn, and cannot be developed. 

WRONG! Anyone can be charismatic. It's not a talent, It's a skill. And I am gonna teach it to you.

First of all, you should know what is charisma. Charisma is something that sets you apart from others. Makes you more desirable, more likable, more influential, and more attractive. In short, charisma is the ability to woo people around you.

Do you know any charismatic person? Ok, let's take an example of Robert Downey Jr. 
He's a man with immense charisma. But how does he do that? Let's get right into it.

Maintain Eye Contact. Use the 80/20 Principle.

Your eyes are a window into your soul. Downey maintains eye contact like a pro. He does this while explaining his point, and wanders around a bit when the other person is talking. That's the key. 

You have to maintain eye contact as long as you talk, and when the other person starts to talk, look around for a few seconds, and then maintain the eye contact once again. 

Let's take an example to give you a better idea of what I am saying. Suppose you are talking to your crush, and you talk for 10 minutes. Now, as per the 80/20 principle, you have to maintain eye contact for 8 minutes and look around for two minutes. at regular intervals.

One more thing, never make an eye contact with a blank face and no expressions. It's a big No-No. When you are making eye contact, blink your eyes regularly and give a few expressions when needed, so that you appear more interested and more human.

Crack the Funniest Joke You Know.

I am sure you have seen Robert Downey make others laugh a dozen times at least. Does it make him charismatic? -YES! It makes him appear as a more approachable, more open, and a more desirable person. 

You have to do the same. But, you might be thinking that why does it work? 
-It's all about our primal instincts. That's how we have evolved throughout the centuries. If someone makes you feel comfortable around them, your brain decides that the person is not a threat to you, thus, makes him more likable.

However, you must keep in mind that this should not be overdone because you know, an excess of anything is bad, so is with this.  

Have an Open Body Language.

I Can't stress more on this. Please, never ever get accustomed to a closed body language.
What's closed body language? -Folding your arms, slouched shoulders, holding something in your hands while talking to someone. 

All of these things come under closed body language. They make you Very less approachable, and it makes you appear disinterested and on a subconscious level, puts you in a defensive mode.

Now, let me tell you how to have an open body language. It's pretty simple, yet very very effective. Keep Your arms by your side. Don't hold anything in your hand, like a glass or anything that comes between you and the other person. And one last thing, keep your shoulders back. Slouched shoulders a big turn off. Simple as that.


These are the basic rules that you should follow to become Charismatic just like Downey Jr; Follow them, and you will see a drastic change, a very positive change.